Couples Therapy. Marriage Consultant.

Psychological center SOVA works with problems related to:

  • Communication
  • Cheating
  • Lack of understanding
  • Jealousy
  • Sexual problems
  • Divorce/ Separation
  • Physical or verbal aggression

Couples consultation

One of the closest relationships we have is the one with our partner. In it Z. Ruben distinguishes several types. Using the Greek tradition, he names the first “eros”. It contains the desire to be in the company of another person, to have physical contact with him and to be accepted and to receive comfort. The next one, he calls “agape” love, which is the love for the close ones. Agapi contains respect, comfort, care and it is the altruistic love, moved more by the reason than feelings. Finally, there is the love between two people, which is the connection between them, expressed in communication which is close, private. In this relationship and love, individuals express themselves fully.

According to the personality and the occasion, everybody can feel one or the other type of love (as well as to confuse one with the other). No doubt, they can be components of one bigger feeling, feelings of attention and generosity towards the loved ones, combined with the joy of eroticism and the secrets of shared communication oriented towards the loved person, which sometimes can be shared even.

The American psychologist Robert Sternberg offers the following theory of relationships: In a schematic circle, he combines the 3
components of love, which he believes describe its nature to the fullest.

The first he describes as an attachment. Attachment is the cognitive component of love and it relates to the decision we make towards the object of love.

The second component is intimacy. It is the emotional aspect of love and it combines closeness, sharing, support.

The third component is passion. It is the physical and sexual attraction. According to this theory, the different positive relationships which we make happen to the people around us are in result of the different variations of the abovementioned components. These are 8 in total:

1. Indifference: lack of all 3 components.
2. Liking: only intimacy, as in friendship
3. Blinding: lack of all else, but passion. It is common with strong and sudden love attractions.
4. Empty love: there is only the responsibility of love. Very difficult.
5. Romantic love: has passion, intimacy, but no attachment
6. Unreasonable love: has passion and attachment, but no intimacy.
7. Nice love: build only on attachment and intimacy
8. Perfect love: the complete sense of the 3 components balanced.
This spectrum of positive interpersonal relationships can be completed with the different styles of love. There are different styles: erotic type, romantic type, self-centered, insecure, burning, friendly, practical, altruistic. Each one has its specific, which depends on the specifics of the individual person.